Job Searching Is Like Going To The Gym

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Welcome to week 2 of Job Searching for Corporate Rebels!

An effective job search builds momentum. You start with a handful of connections and grow it into a vibrant matrix. This means three things:

1. You have to start somewhere which means you can start anywhere.
2. The start may be slow. That's ok. It takes a while to build momentum.
3. You want your job search to take on a life of its own.

Looking for a job is like going to the gym. When you start, working out doesn't feel great. You can't lift much weight, and your body feels unfamiliar and uncomfortable. You force yourself to go. After a few weeks, a bicep appears, and you sleep better. As you start to see results, you become intrinsically motivated to work out.

Job searching works the same way. Doing reps gets results. Job search reps are making calls, talking to people, submitting resumes, and just like the gym, refining your approach will focus your results as you progress (tailoring your resume, honing your talking points).

Job searching isn't magic (until you get the offer, then it definitely feels like magic). It's a matter of discipline and willingness. Doing the work. Talking to people. Sending applications. Do the reps. Over time, you build momentum.

Today's Hot Tip: Do the reps. Job searching isn't complex. Just do the reps.

In the next couple of weeks, I'll share more about how to build momentum. Stay tuned.

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Reach out anytime!

Do Your Beliefs Matter To Finding A Job?

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Welcome to week 1 of Job Hunting for Corporate Rebels!

If you are not currently looking for a job, this series applies to getting promoted, staying fresh in your field, and will set you up for the day you do start a job search. Tuck these newsletters away for the future.

An effective job search is one part mindset and two parts effort. Do you ever think these things?

• I don't know if I'm qualified.
• My skills are so varied, no one will understand what I do.
• I'll never find a job.
• I wish I had taken a different path/gotten a different degree because then I'd be qualified.
• I've wasted time.

These thoughts in your head are simply beliefs. Limiting beliefs. When you operate from beliefs like these, it is hard to motivate yourself to take action and move forward.

In my 14 years of supporting people in their job searches and careers, there is one over-arching belief that effectively propels your job search, and it's this:

Job searching is match-making. Someone out there is looking for you.

Hiring is a grueling and fraught process. Employers want to hire the right person for the role and culture. The right hire solves a problem and makes the manager's life easier. A bad hire is horrible. An employer is just as happy to find you as you are to find them.

Today's Hot Tip: Someone out there is waiting for you. You just have to find them.

Keep reading, we'll talk more about how to find them in the coming weeks.

Please reach out anytime with questions and comments. I always love hearing from you.

If you have a friend, colleague or family member who is currently looking for a job, they can click here to receive the whole series.

Job Searching 101: It's For Everyone!

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I've had many, many job seekers reach out recently so I'm going to spend a few weeks giving you my best advice about job hunting.

Before you decide, "I have a job, I don't need this information," this advice is for everyone, whether you are happy in your job, looking for a job, or dreaming about your next move.

Consider yourself a job seeker, even if you have a stable job. You never know when your next opportunity will arise, the layoff will occur, your family will move, or you decide it's time for a change.

Change is the name of the game. You own your career. You want to keep things fresh, be active in your field, continue to learn and grow, meet people, and have interesting conversations. Those activities are the same whether you are actively looking for a job today or simply keeping things open for the future.

The point of today's newsletter is you are always looking for a job, even if you don't actually need one right now. I don't mean this as a high-pressure statement. Actually, keeping things fresh and staying on top of your career can be fun.

That's what I'll be talking about for a few weeks. If you have a friend or colleague who could benefit from 14 years of experience in career development and job seeking, please hit forward and share this newsletter with them. They can subscribe here to receive the whole series.

Happy New Year!

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If you're like me, it takes a minute to get in the groove of the new year. I always feel a little sad about the passing of Christmas, time with family, the quiet and downtime of the holidays.

I'm still not landed in 2024. Kids are still home from college. Work is ramping up this week. Getting back to the gym. Taking steps toward a routine.

These first few weeks of January are a period of transition for many of you. (Some of you may feel like 2024 shot out like a rocket, and you're fully landed. If that's the case, awesome!)

It's ok to be in transition. Simply acknowledging that's where you are making the discomfort easier and smoother to move through.

What do you do when you still feel discombobulated? Get into action. Don't spend a lot of time thinking or wallowing. Take action to build your regular routine. Just get yourself to the gym. Make regular meals. Clean. Do the activities that help you feel grounded.

In the familiar phrase, Just Do It.

You'll feel landed in 2024 in no time.

Happy New Year!

Your Holiday Toolkit #3: Care For Yourself

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As a coach, I think a lot about the nervous system and how to teach people to regulate it. I heard an interesting fact recently (on the Ten Percent Happier Podcast). 80% of information travels from your body to your brain. Only 20% goes from your brain to your body.

This means that caring for your body and learning to regulate your nervous system is crucial to managing your reactions, moods, and daily experiences. This is good news because you can learn to regulate your nervous system. Yoga, meditation, and exercise are all familiar tools for physical regulation.

And there's a tool that's even easier.

Pay attention the micro-moments when you feel regulated and notice what you are doing. Then do more of those things. (This is also thanks to the Deb Dana interview on Ten Percent Happier). This is what that looks like:

• When your cat purrs on your lap and you feel a moment of "ahhhh…" that is regulation. Spend more time with your cat or snuggle your cat when you feel dis-regulated.
• When you climb into bed and notice how soft the covers are, that's a moment of regulation. The mental note will enable you to stay in the moment a few seconds longer, increasing your physical regulation.
• Give yourself a big sigh. As often as you need.
• When you pull in the garage and have a few moments of delicious silence between work and whatever awaits you in your house, savor it. That's regulation.

The more you notice, the more regulated you'll feel. The goal isn't to feel regulated all the time. That's impossible. Instead, the goal is to know what regulation feels like for you, what brings you that moment of calm, and the easy activities that can help you get back when you get dis-regulated (which can easily happen during the holidays).

I hope this helps you find the micro-moments in your life!

Have a wonderful holiday!

Holiday Toolkit #2: 3 Ways To Lose The Martyr And Have More Fun!

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When you feel like all the work is on your shoulders and your to-do list is 5 pages long, perhaps you are being a martyr. If you feel resentful about any aspect of your holiday (Why is everyone always at my house? Why am I in the kitchen when everyone else is watching football?), you are definitely being a martyr.

Ouch. That word can be hard to absorb. (I don't know anyone who ever feels like a martyr. Nope. No one around here.)

There's good news, though!

When you see yourself sacrificing your own peace and joy for the sake of performing, looking good, proving something, or maintaining control, you have taken the first step toward changing it.

Here are 3 ways to drop the martyr and have more fun this holiday.

• Ask for help. Ask other people to step in and take over some of the plans. This, of course, means....
• Relinquish control. Let other people contribute in their own ways, even if that's messy or not the way you'd do it. There is no rule about a "perfect" holiday. What people remember is the connection and fun so release the pressure on yourself and let some balls drop if necessary.
• Martyr is the wounded aspect of the Magician. So, when you feel like a martyr, where can you instead lean into what's magic about you? Maybe you hate cooking and love setting a beautiful table. Let other people cook and lean into your love of beauty. If no one wants to decorate the tree with you, instead of pressuring people (martyr), put on some music and enjoy your beautiful tree (magician).

The minute you feel even a whiff of resentment, ask yourself what you need to do for yourself (not what can you demand from others) to bring yourself back into alignment with YOU. It may involve redesigning the way you do your holidays so you have more fun. And guess what, when you have more fun, so will those around you!

Here's to ease in your holidays!

Your Holiday Toolkit #1.5: Forgive Yourself

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Christmas in Pokhara, Nepal

I'm laughing out loud. I wrote all my holiday newsletters and pre-scheduled them since I am traveling and working and taking time off in December. I scheduled two of them for the same day last week so you got a double dose of Corporate Rebel.

That means you get a bonus tool for the holidays so here is #1.5: Forgive when things aren't perfect.

See how I turned my mistake into a lesson?

So many things go wrong during the holidays…the pie gets dropped on the ground, gifts are the wrong size, family gets sick, people are annoying, __________ (fill in the blank on the thousands of things that can go wrong).

Do this when you make a mistake:

• Have a good laugh at yourself.
• Use your mistake to build your humility.
• Use your mistake as a way to have grace for other people's mistakes.
• Move forward.

Things don't always turn out as you expect. And sometimes, the mistake leads to something even better. (Like a bonus holiday tool and a dose of humility!)

Here's to your learning (and mine)!