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I was talking with a client this week, and he said something like,"If I just control the information that goes out, things will go smoothly." Every time I hear this word I reply with, "let's make a tiiiiiny adjustment to one word."
The word is….
CONTROL
Boo. Hiss. Erase. Delete. Gone forever.
Control is an illusion. When you believe the illusion, control leads to inflexibility over possibility, outcome over process, reaction over responsibility, and separation over connection. Striving for control limits your view, feeds unhealthy competition, and is quite ineffective.
Instead of control, try one of these words: ownership, responsibility, influence, power.
Back to the example: What's different if you have ownership of the information that goes out? Or if you have influence over it? Ownership and influence give you power. They put you in the driver's seat. They recognize that you are responsible for your side of the fence and help you get clear about what's yours. Ownership and influence lift you from responsibility for what happens on the other side.
Deleting and replacing the word will help you, over time, delete and replace the energy of control and set you up to embrace the ease that brings.
Try it and then email me what happens!
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