How to Stop That Devil On Your Shoulder

Time to read: 39 little seconds

I was talking to a new client recently, and he told me that every time he goes to networking events, a voice in his head tells him he has nothing to say, no one is interested, and that everyone else is a better networker.

No wonder networking seems hard and discouraging.

Networking is a popular place for this negative talk track to appear. Perhaps, for you, the voice appears in public presentations, in conversations with your boss, during job interviews or project meetings, dating, in-laws or college reunions. Choose your favorite situation.

You can't succeed in networking, interviews or conversations when you treat yourself negatively.

To dilute the negative voice, try this:

Think about someone you love - a friend, a sibling, or one of your children. Now imagine them at the networking event with you following them around whispering in their ear that they aren't good enough and will never succeed.

Ridiculous!

You'd never do that to them, right?

And yet, you do it to yourself.

Again, imagine the person you love. If you were a bug in their ear, how would you encourage them? What would you say?

See where this is going?! At the risk of connecting obvious dots...

Say those things to yourself.

Networking (and presentations and conversations with your boss and interviews) just got a whole lot easier.

Write to me and tell me all about it!

Rebel love to you!

Christina

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This Is What Easy Looks Like!

Time to read: 45 seconds

Hello rebels,

A client of mine is looking for work and has decided to use this opportunity to craft his career in his area of passion and life purpose. It feels risky and exciting and scary and wonderful all at once.

He was recently accepted into and attended an exclusive international training program in his area of passion. This training included luminaries in his field, people with gobs of experience, amazing possibility for connection, and the potential for tapping into the unpublished job market. He was simultaneously excited and terrified.

For the event, we set some tactical goals: 1. to get a photo with the biggest star at the conference; 2. come away with at least 5 new connections.

On our call this week, we reviewed his progress toward these goals. Photo with star - check! And the 5 connections... "well," he said, "the conference organizers sat us at tables according to our region so the 5 connections happened easily. I guess I didn't really do the assignment."

What?! Didn't do the assignment? He wanted 5 connections and got 5 connections. In fact, more than 5 connections fell into his lap easily. Something seemed wrong because he hadn't "worked" for the connections. He hadn't struggled.

And, this is how life and work happens when you are on the right track. This is how opportunities flow when you are following your purpose. Opportunities come easily. Connections happen naturally. The universe just seats you at a table with exactly the people you need to meet.

All that energy spent struggling and worrying about making the right connections at the conference? He got to use it to talk about the things he actually cares about and take the next steps toward what he wants.

What would it be like to let go of the struggle and achieve your goals this easily?

You can.

With rebel love,

Christina

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Getting What You Want Organically and Easily

Wouldn't you love a process for getting what you want organically and easily?

The process I'm about to show you does just that in ways that are surprising and such a relief to the part of you that believes you have to suffer to get what you want. No pain, no gain right?

Wrong.

As you read this, I am sitting in a ballroom at the Deepak Chopra Center learning about creating what you want with ease. I can't wait to come back and share what I learn with you and my beloved clients.

In the meantime, I want to share a delightful, real-life example so you can start to apply this process in your own life - a new job, a partner, a promotion. You name it, and you can get it.

Here's the example:

My friend, Anne, lost her beloved Pomeranian in the spring. (This is not the delightful part.) When Rafa died, Anne's husband pronounced, "no more dogs."

So, Anne found herself with a strong desire for another Pomeranian and a significant roadblock to getting one. What's a girl to do?

Call her coach friend, Christina, and start to apply Chopra's process.

Step 1: Allow yourself to want. Desire is a good thing as it signals to the universe that it's time to cooperate.

Anne had the desire thing handled. Move to step 2.

Step 2: Put your attention on what you desire. This is a simple principle: What you focus on grows. If you focus on fear, worry and impossibility, you will get fear, worry and impossibility. If you focus instead on your desire for a Pomeranian, you never know what will happen.

Step 3: Set your intention. This is the action part. Set your intention on what you want and start moving. You may network, send feelers out to get on the team for that cool international IT initiative, or look at Pomeranians on Petfinder and maybe apply for a few even though said husband still says, "no dog."

The power of the universe cannot be denied.

Step 4: Let go. This is the hardest step. I mean truly the hardest. You're out there, taking all the action, feeling all the desire, and the fact of the matter is, you are not in control of the outcome. Things will happen, you will stumble, you will hear, "sorry, that dog is already taken," and "honey, I'm serious about not wanting another dog."

Suffering happens when you cling tightly to a specific result. The outcome of your desire, attention and intention will likely be something you couldn't imagine and don't expect. Which brings me to Step 5.

Step 5: Pay attention to coincidences and synchronicity. When you open your field of vision to infinite possibilities and outcomes, the universe will deliver weird coincidences - those moments when you're, like, "that opportunity/phone call/perfect person/dog came out of nowhere!" Those coincidences are full of opportunities. Be alert. Pay attention so you don't miss them.

For Anne, the coincidence came as a phone call from a dog rescue that needed to find a foster home right away for a small dog. Because it was only a foster situation, her husband agreed and within a day of the call, Fergus entered their lives. Within a week, Fergus had stolen everyone's hearts and became a permanent resident on Anne's lap. (See birthday photo above as evidence.)

Anne's family had never fostered a dog. Fergus is not a Pomeranian. When Anne let go of the specific dog she had in mind, the universe delivered the dog she was meant to have. (And found a way to do it so her husband would get on board.) The entire process unfolded organically and without struggle. 

And Fergus is darn cute.

I'd love to hear where you will apply this process in your own life or perhaps where you have already seen it work for you. Hit reply to this email and tell me all about it. Or even better, pop over to Corporate Rebel HQ in Facebook and tell your rebel community.

Happy manifesting!

Christina

P.S. My dear friend and colleague, Sandra Possing, (remember her from our summer camp FB Live sessions earlier this summer?) is launching a six week coaching program with an epic name and an even more epic purpose. Unleashed. She will help you let go of what is holding you back. If you're curious to know more, check out her program here: https://goo.gl/F2R4hb