You're Not Imagining It. Here's What Helps.

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Vintage is more fun that stock photos of random models in an office

The world is a lot right now. You still have a 9am. Let's talk about that.

This week, I want to acknowledge something out loud: it is genuinely hard to care about your inbox when it feels like everything outside is on fire. You are not weak for feeling distracted. You are human. A very tired, caring human.

You've told me you're struggling to focus. That you sit down to work and your brain is somewhere else entirely. That you feel guilty for worrying about a deadline when bigger things are happening. I hear you. I've been there too, as I've written about.

Here's what I want you to know: showing up to your work right now is an act of courage. Not the dramatic kind. The quiet, unglamorous kind — where you make the coffee, open the laptop, and do the thing anyway.

A few ideas for getting through the day:

  • Give yourself five minutes before the noise begins. Close your eyes, put your fingers on the keyboard so everyone thinks you're working, and breathe.
  • Pick one person you get to help today. Start there. The rest will follow.
  • Step away from the headlines for a few hours. The world will need your attention later. Right now, so do the people in front of you.
  • Be embarrassingly patient with yourself and the people around you. Everyone is carrying something you can't see.

You don't have to be unaffected. You just have to be present. And on the days when even that feels like too much, just show up. That counts.

Please email me and tell me how you're really doing. I always want to know. Really and truly.

 

Still waiting….

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The actual tattoo on my actual wrist

All around me I see people jumping in to DO SOMETHING. My past self was a quick responder, fast to DO, and quick to draw conclusions.

People do this at work all the time. Reorganization happens…do something! Layoffs…do something.! New management…do something! Change happens…do something!

I've learned that quick action does not always lead to the most thoughtful, effective action. At least not for me. So, I have learned to wait. Watch. Wait. Pay attention. Learn. Wait. Heal. Feel. Listen. Wait.

Then do.

I am thinking about a lot of things and will have many things to say in coming weeks. For now, I invite you to join me in waiting. There is a lot to learn.

 

You Have Permission To Stop

Time to read: 1 min, 1 second or 61 seconds

I distract myself with collecting and sharing pretty things

I distract myself with collecting and sharing pretty things. When you are anxious, sad, or overwhelmed, it is ok to stop for a while.

Often, high performing people like you feel like you must push through, keep showing up, and do more. I hear people say that the antidote for their discomfort is, "do something!" Yes to doing things. It's a great strategy.

And, sometimes, you just need to turn off your brain. Watch a stupid movie. Lay on the couch and watch BritBox mysteries (my favorite). Watch the sunset. Talk about fashion with your friends. Snuggle your dog.

It's ok…actually it's imperative…that you let your brain rest and reset. When living in uncertain times, find your distractions. Let your brain rest. So you are ready for the next round of doing.

I'd love to hear about your favorite distractions. Please email me and share!

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