One Easy Way To Get What You Want

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New York!

In case your life is full this week, here's the punchline:

To get what you want, ask.

My daughter and I are headed to New York City for two weeks. She's doing an internship/shadow, and I am her roadie managing logistics and food. This trip happened because she sent an email asking for help, and the person responded with generosity beyond her wildest imagination.

I'm going to admit something here….I actually discouraged her from asking because I didn't want her to be a bother. (Notice what stops you from asking.) She did anyway, and she's off to the opportunity of a lifetime. (It's a good thing my teen daughter doesn't listen to me.)

So, go ahead. Bother the person. Ask. If you don't, the answer is certainly no.

When you ask, sometimes things don't work out or the answer is no. That's ok, too. It's not about the outcome, it's about opening space for possibilities.

So, go ahead and ask. I'd love to hear what you ask for, and what happens when you do.

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The Gift of Space, Time and Compassion

If you are like my clients (hi clients!), your life is full, you are busy, and you can be hard on yourself sometimes (maybe constantly). This week, I give you the gift of space, time and compassion.

As humans we crave these things. My clients work toward these things. Your children demand them (if you’re listening). Your relationships need them.  Your best self and your work want them. And they can be elusive in our world. Here's what I mean:
 
Space: A free mind, a warm blanket, your couch, becoming unattached from your own expectations so you can enjoy the unfolding of your life. 
 
Time: Full permission not to do anything. Even for a few minutes (see specific instructions below).
 
Compassion: For yourself and your humanness. For others.
 
Pema Chodron, a wise Buddhist teacher says, “A thoroughly good relationship with ourselves results in being still, which doesn’t mean we don’t run and jump and dance about. It means there’s no compulsiveness. We don’t overwork, overeat, oversmoke, overseduce. In short we begin to stop causing harm (to ourselves).”
 
These instructions will teach you about Bonus Time and how to use it:

This week’s newsletter is short so you can have Bonus Time (time you were prepared to do something else – like read this newsletter - that you can now use to give yourself space and compassion).

Stop right now and give yourself one minute of silence. Yes, you. Yes, now, while sitting at your computer.  Before you jump to one more email: Stop. Breathe. And Be.
 
That's it.
 
Christina

P.S. When you have more Bonus Time, hit reply to this email and tell me how you used your minute. Be honest.