Time to read: Less than one minute
When you were young, did you dream of your future? Maybe a job that earned a good living. A family. Time to pursue your passions and interests. Travel. Then, once you got that job, you poured yourself into it with gusto (or not). You played volleyball after work. You took painting classes or sang in a choir. You slept in on weekends and had dinner regularly with friends.
Then maybe you committed to a partner. Perhaps you built a family. You got promoted or changed jobs or went back to school. Your parents got older. Maybe you bought a house. Life got more complex and even though it happened over years, it seems like overnight you became exhausted, overwhelmed, and focused on life as a checklist of transactions. You used to feel like you had it all together and now balls are dropping, friends are a distant memory, exercise was first to go, and the "few tips" you've tried to regain control lasted all of a minute before everything snapped back to the relentless new "normal."
Does some version of this sound familiar?
I grew up in the 1980s when young people were fed the biggest lie of all time.
You can have it all.
It's total crap.
Also total crap is the feeling that there is something wrong with you if you can't manage it all.
A wise mentor once said to me, "You can have anything. You just can't have everything."
Cue one of my favorite themes: Choices.
You get to choose your priorities. When you're trying to stuff 15 pounds of life into a 5 pound bag, you get to choose what to let go, what is non-negotiable, what can wait, and what you'll prioritize.
Stop beating yourself up for not being able to manage it all. No one can. It's a lie.
With rebel love,
P.S. Know someone who needs to let go of the lie? Send them here to find relief.